In times when words only go so far, a considered gesture can mean everything and more

A sympathy gift can be a gentle, loving gesture for a friend or family member facing a tricky time. If you’re looking to show support for a loved one going through a bereavement, break-up or any other difficult life event, it’s often tough knowing what to say and do.

Providing in-person support is likely your first inclination. But if you’re far away, this may not be possible — and depending on timing, they might not be quite ready to talk anyway. 

By reaching out with a sympathy gift, you’re showing that you’re thinking of them and you’re there when they need you. Read on for ideas on providing thoughtful presents that won’t overstep any boundaries.

What is an appropriate sympathy gift?

Of course, the last thing you want is to somehow offend your friend or family member when they’re feeling more sensitive than usual. That’s why it’s important to take care when selecting the right sympathy gift.

Luckily, you can’t go far wrong. They’re sure to appreciate the sentiment whatever you choose. However, some choices exhibit a little more thoughtfulness than others. A good rule of thumb is choosing a gift that helps them in some way or provides comfort.

As for when to send it? In most cases, it’s best as soon as they confide in you about what’s happened. Alternatively, you can pick a moment sporadically in the weeks or months that follow. In cases of bereavement, for example, they’ll receive a flood of attention in the early stages, then this boost of support will slowly fade away. By delivering them a gift, you’re acknowledging that it may not be getting easier, but you’re still always there.

How do you make a thoughtful care package?

If you already have a few comforting or helpful items in mind, why not put a care package together? It’s particularly touching to receive something personalised, and the love you pour into assembling it will shine right through.

While in a sense, it’s the gifts themselves that matter, the presentation of the package can give it an extra special feel. Rather than throwing a couple of bits into a bag, pick out a gift box. They’re normally stocked in supermarkets, post offices and card shops. Or for more of a hamper style, you could use a wicker basket. These are easy to find in homeware stores, or you may have one around the house already.

Then to cushion the gifts inside, use some pretty tissue paper – shredded or not. Propping them up artfully will give the finished box a professional — yet still touchingly homemade — look.

Heartfelt sympathy gift ideas

Do you need a little inspiration for which gifts to include? Here are a few sympathy gift ideas we think are ideal for a range of recipients.

Comforting hot chocolate

A good hot chocolate really is a hug in a mug. They’ll feel the warmth of your friendship both when they receive the box, and as they enjoy it in all its glory. Plus, the association between hot chocolate and self-care is undeniable. Whether their idea of a cosy evening is a few chapters of their book or a movie marathon, it may just prompt them to devote some time to resting and recuperating.

Opt for the soothing familiarity of Milky 50% Hot Chocolate. With its mellow yet nuanced cacao notes, this sumptuous recipe offers the perfect balance between bitter and sweet. Alternatively, you may know their favourite flavours. From moreish Peanut Butter to endlessly soothing Vanilla-White, you’re sure to find something to suit in our hot chocolate collection. Our single-serve sachets are ideal for adding to your care package.

To really go the extra mile, why not consider gifting the Velvetiser? Our at-home hot chocolate system produces barista-grade drinks at the touch of a button. 

A chocolate box

There are fewer foods more comforting than chocolate.

When your loved one needs a little pick me up, you can make sure they’ve got exactly what they fancy to hand. Picking out a box of chocolates with an assortment of flavours and textures is a safe bet. The Patisserie Sleekster, The All Dark Collection and The Everything Luxe feature a carefully curated selection of our most popular chocolates. They offer a bit of bite size luxury on those gloomy days.

A book

To process emotions, it’s often important to deal with them head on – but there’s a lot to be said for the healing power of distraction. Diving into a good story is a great way for them to refocus their thoughts and take some time for themselves.

There’s something personal about choosing a book for someone, knowing that it’s one they’ll enjoy. In giving them this escape, you’re subtly showing you’re always looking out for them.

Add a card or personal message

Don’t forget to add a card or message to your gift of choice. With the gesture speaking volumes in itself, you don’t need to overthink this part. Sometimes an accompanying ‘thinking of you’ is all it takes.

That’s not to say you have to hold back from sharing more personalised words of wisdom, should they come to mind. You could tell them how much you respect their strength, and how they’ll get through this. Maybe share a memory that will make them smile. In darker times, these small sentiments can really make someone’s day.

When you order a chocolate gift from Hotel Chocolat, you can add a personalised message card for free. Take a look at our gift wrap details for more information.

Chocolate sympathy gifts from Hotel Chocolat

Even just thinking about what to get to support a loved one shows just how much you care. We’re sure your recipient will appreciate the gesture no matter what you present to them. however, if you’re wondering where to start, we’ve curated two edits featuring gift ideas for anyone going through a rough patch. Our Sympathy gifts and Cheer up gifts collections are packed with heartwarming chocolate treats to suit all tastes.